Dashain (also pronounced as Dasain) is the longest and most celebrated festival in Nepal. Dashain has its different names. It is called Dasain, Vijaya Dashami and Dahsera. The way of celebration and name differs, but most Nepali celebrate it for about 15 days with same zeal and enthusiasm.
Dashain is the celebration of victory of good over evil. This festival symbolize that good always prevail over bad.
This year Dashain festivals is from October 13 to October 26, 2015. The tenth day of Dashain – Vijaya Dashami, the tika day is on October 3, 2014.
In Bikram Sambat date, Dashain starts Ashwin 26, 2072 and runs till Kartik 05, 2072. The main day: Dashain Tika day of 2072 is on Monday, Kartik 05, 2072.
Dashain has its own stories, importance and significance. It is regarded as victory of truth over the evil. Dashain is celebration of victory of good over bad. Dashain reminds us every year that the evil may be strong for a time; the truth and good will always prevail over it.
Every year we all Nepali, remember the message “Good always wins over the evil”, with the celebration of the great festival of Bada Dashain.
सर्व मंगल मांगल्ये शिवे सर्वार्थ साधिके । शरन्ये त्रयम्बिके गौरी नारायणी नमोस्तुते ।।
शरणागत दीनार्तपरित्राण परायणे। सर्वस्यातिहरे देवि नारायण नमोस्तुते।।
सर्वस्वरूपे सर्वेशे सर्वेशक्तिसमन्विते । भयेभ्यस्त्राहि नो देवि दुर्गे देवि नमोऽस्तु ते ।।
रोगनशेषानपहंसि तुष्टा। रुष्टा तु कामान् सकलानभीष्टान्।।
त्वामाश्रितानां न विपन्नराणां। त्वमाश्रिता हृयश्रयतां प्रयान्ति।।
सर्वाबाधा प्रशमनं त्रैलोक्यस्याखिलेश्वरि। एवमेव त्वया कार्यमस्मद्दैरिविनाशनम्।।
सर्वाबाधा विर्निर्मुक्तो धनधान्यसुतान्वित:। मनुष्यो मत्प्रसादेन भविष्यति न संशय:।।
जयन्ती मङ्गला काली भद्रकाली कपालिनी । दुर्गा शिवा क्षमा धात्री स्वाहा स्वधा नमोऽस्तु ते ।।
देहि सौभाग्यमारोग्यं देहि देवि परं सुखम् ।
रूपं देहि जयं देहि यशो देहि द्विषो जहि ॥
Dashain is just after the season of harvest. All the farmers are happy and most households are filled with rice and gains. The season is called Sarad Ritu, which is the most pleasant time in the year. The season itself is a celebration. People have lots of rice in home this time of year. Therefore people in some places have culture of putting tika of rice on the forehead. Some mix it with abir and make it red. Some do it white only with curd.
The rice and curd is used because, people have those things this season. To make it colorful, they
mixed it with abir. That became tika.
Nepali people, wherever they live, they try to reach home to see their family in Dashain. Take blessings from their elders and enjoy being with family forgetting all the trouble and worries. That is why it is also called D ashahara, it is simply mean “take away ill fortune” (dasha=ill, furtune, hara=take away).
There is a tradition of getting new cloths and having big feast in this festival. Family gathering is the most loved part of this festival. Swings made up of bamboo and coconut rope is swinging all across the nation. There is a tradition to swing at least once in this festival. People say if you leave the ground swinging in Dashain, the swing will take away ill feelings and replace it with new and rejuvenation inside oneself. Kit flying is another attraction for youth.
People all across the country worship Durga Bhawani and visit temples. It is called Nauratha visits. People wake up early in the morning and go to temples of Devi Durga. People perform musical programs and Ramlila in Madhesh and Terai region of Nepal. Nepal has its own music which symbolizes Dashain. The music is called Mal Shree Dhun.
On the tenth day, people put Prasad of victory. In hilly reasons people put tika from the hands of elders on their foreheads. In some places people make a dummy of Raman and burn it in tenth day with performance of Ram Lila. Celebration differs according to geographic structure but all celebrate the same festival with same zeal and enthusiasm.
Dashain is the longest holiday in Nepal. Nepal Government closes about 7 days during this festival.
This festival is known for emphasis on family gatherings, as well as on a renewal of community ties. People return from all parts of the world, as well as different parts of the country, to celebrate this festival together.
Dashain has 15 days celebration, however, following days are regarded as main days amogst them,
The first day of this festival starts from Ghatasthapana. The “Dashain Ghar”, or special worship room, is set up, to start pooja of Durga Bhawani. This room is used to plant barley called Jamara in Nepali and to worship the Astha-Matrikas (the 8 tantrik Goddesses) as well as the Nava Durgas (the 9 Goddess Durga) for remaining 9 days. (All these 9 days have their own importance in Dashain celebration). Barley is sowed in sand brought from river, and the barley is called Jamara when it is grown. These seeds will sprout in ten days. The sprouts, which symbolize a good harvest, will be decoratively placed on the heads of family members later on in the festival as a blessing.
There are so many stories behind Dashain celebration. Whatever the stories are, Dashain is celebrated as the victory of Good over evil.
King Ram Chandra, whose wife Sita was kidnapped by King Rawan, with the help of hanuman and its military,
conquered Rawan on the tenth day, after regular worship of Durga Bhawani for 9 days. The 10th day is the victory day. Therefore, we worship Durga Bhawani for 9 days and 10th day, make dummy of Ramwan and burn it symbolizing the end of evil. We put tika on our forehead as prasad of victory.
Demons, or Asuras, became very powerful and ambitious and continually tried to defeat the Devas, or Gods, and capture Heaven. One Asura, Mahishasur, in the form of a bull, grew very powerful and created havoc on the earth. Asuras started defeating the Devas and chasing them away from the havean. The world was crushed under Mahishasura’s cruelty; the Devas put their energy together and form a Shakti, a single mass of incandescent energy, to kill Mahishasur.
A very powerful band of lightning emerged from the mouths of Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva and a young, beautiful female virgin with ten hands appeared. All the Gods gave their powers and special weapons to her. This Shakti blended to form the goddess Durga. With her vehicle riding on a lion, Durga Bhawanu, fought Mahishasur. The battle raged for nine days and nights. Finally on the tenth day of Ashvin shukla paksha, Mahishasur was defeated and killed by Durga. This is the day of celebration.
There are many Ashirbad and slokas of Dashain, however the mostly used slokas / mantra of Dashian Asirbad in Nepal during putting Tika are below.
This Dashian mantra enchanted generally while putting tika to female member of family.
Om Jayanti Mangala Kaali Bhadra Kali Kapalini
ॐ जयन्ती मङ्गला काली भद्रकाली कपालिनी ।
This mantra is enchanted while putting tika to male member of family.
Ayur Drona sute sriyem Dasarathe, Satruk ksheyam Raghave,
आयुर द्रोण सुते श्रेयम दशरथे , सत्रुक क्षेयम रघवे,
Happy Dashain to All !!!
Is the World Just an Illusion or Real?
Is the world just an illusion or real? This is a question that some of the people who visit this website and blog ask.
The world is not real in the sense that:
- Nothing is permanent in the world.
- The reality or lack or reality of the world largely depends on our five senses.
- Everything is vibration in various wavelengths.
- Everything is made from the same tiny particles, so the same particles can take different forms.
- Everything that we call truth depends on our prior mental programming and education. What someone deems as truth, someone else deems as untrue.
- The world is an illusion not in the sense that it is non-existent, but in the sense that we create this illusion with our attitude, upbringing and ignorance. We often create with our feelings and thoughts an illusory world that does not exist. We create a veil that hides reality.
One can understand clearly the illusion only when he or she can free himself or herself from this illusion, and this does not come from just denying the reality of the world and becoming apathetic. This come from the ability to switch off the mind and look inside, and requires a lot of inner work.
We project our thoughts and feelings on the world around us, like a cinema screen on which pictures and light and projected. The screen is real, but the pictures are not. Yet, we respond and react to these moving pictures. They look real when we watch a movie. So it is with our thoughts, feelings and beliefs, when we project them outside. They look real us, and we do not see the reality that is beyond them.
Many things are made from clay, which we call by deferent names, such as vases, statues, plates etc, but nevertheless, they are made of clay, only temporarily turned into various objects.
You can many things from gold, bracelets, pendants, rings or earrings, yet they are all gold, temporarily shaped into certain forms, and given names – labels.
The clay and the gold are real stuff, but the forms are only shapes made from this stuff, temporarily existing, and therefore not real. This can give you some notion about really and illusion of the world.
Though the world is an illusion, you live in it. Even if you accept the unreality of the world, you still are subject to its laws. Even highly evolved souls have to eat and drink and have certain material necessities. Running away or becoming apathetic is not the right attitude.
Be in the world, but also be out of it. Do your chores and tasks, do your best in everything you do, but at the same time stay calm and emotionally detached.
People who have been able to rise above the illusion of the world, through meditation and inner work, and who have been able to attain real inner peace and what is called “enlightenment”, don’t necessarily live in secluded places and stop any interaction with the world, though some do. Some continue with the same life they lived before, working and taking care of the day-to-day chores and tasks. Some might start writing, and others might start teaching what they have learned. They don’t become apathetic or indifferent.
You might say that if the world we live in is just an illusion, Maya, a dream, what’s the point in participating in anything if it’s not real. You can’t stop participating, and acting in the world. Do what you need to do, but at the same time stay calm and detached. Look at the world, as not being real, but without running away from it. This attitude and behavior would make you feel more free and at peace. Live in the illusion, but at the same time let the life force inside you act and express itself. Always look within you, beyond thoughts, feelings and beliefs, beyond illusion. This will lead to inner peace, detachment and enlightenment.
Read also Reality Versus Imagination & Illusion
Quantum physics tells us that reality is far beyond human perception and intuition. In other words, our rational mind and common sense are just not capable of understanding the true nature of reality.
Einstein’s theory of relativity introduced a new way of looking at the physical properties of the universe. The Newtonian constraints of absolute time and space were abandoned. Time and space were unified and made relative, it formed a continuum that curved and enfolded about itself. Gravity was a distortion of this continuum caused by the presence of mass. From this, the famous formula e=mc~ was derived. (e=energy, m=mass, c=the speed of light, the magical constant in the system, the absolute maximum speed that anything can travel.)
So Einstein’s famous theory has one absolute (speed of light) in a relative universe, and it forms a kind of boundary around all we can know. Even though this theory has been borne out by many experiments, its consequences appear very bizarre. Objects shrink when they are in motion, space time curves, light is bent by gravity etc.
After formulating his theory of relativity, Einstein spent the rest of his life trying to find a ‘unified field theory’. In other words he was trying to tie together the workings of the physical world in one theory or formula, a theory of everything. To this day, scientists are still searching for a way of integrating the theories of quantum and relativity, for as far as scientists are aware at present these theories contradict one another. To the scientific imagination a contradiction cannot be built into nature, it must be in our minds.
Even though Einstein had a deep sense of the mystical or spiritual, he refused to let go of his classical insistence that a rational explanation or theory could be found, i.e., the world was accessible to human reason.
This dilemma for Einstein can be seen when he said that he believed in the possibility of expressing everything scientifically, but contradicted himself saying that such an expression would be meaningless when describing a Beethoven symphony as a variation of wave pressure. Of course the meaning and effect of the music would be missing.
Chaos theory seems to fit into the picture at this point. It is in essence a reversal of the classical view that the physical laws are what count, and local disturbances are relatively trivial. In chaos theory local disturbances can be ultimately overwhelming and, just as important, we cannot tell when they are about to overwhelm us.
A strange concealed order has been revealed by chaos theory. If we run large numbers of variations of simple equations on a computer, patterns emerge. The most famous of these patterns is the Mandelbrot set. Every magnification of the pattern reveals more elaborate layers made up of shapes like gingerbread men linked together in swirls, repeating in more and more complexity. These patterns seem to illustrate infinity, and the gingerbread men seem to represent the incredible creative and energetic complexity of reality.
I hope I have sufficiently described these three theories (Relativity, Quantum, and Chaos) to give the reader some insights into how all is not what it seems. The world is indeed stranger than anything our rational mind can grasp.
The more we explore these “new science’ avenues, the more illusory our universe seems to be. I feel that we must again look at some Eastern concepts because they seem to be more and more relevant as we explore the mysteries of “new’ science. The more I have reflected on the meaning of the “new’ science of quantum, relativity and chaos, the more it has reminded me of the ancient Indian traditional concept of Maya.
Maya is quite a difficult concept to define in simple terms. I envisage it as a multi- layered web of illusion. The deeper one goes into the web, the more intricate and tangled the illusion becomes. It applies, I feel, to the latest scientific exploration of the physical world. Until the “new’ science, we have only been scratching around on the surface of this Maya. As we go deeper into it, the bizarre twists and turns seem to push the answers further from our grasp. When we confront this web of illusion, it takes us closer to the boundaries of human awareness. We realise even more that the explanations of the infinite cannot be attained using finite means. (see Godel’s theorem later in this chapter.)
This next observation should be viewed in a very general open minded way. It is not intended as any kind of conclusive proof, but purely as a glimpse of something which may help in our search for clues. In the field of higher mathematics we find Godel’s theorem. In very simple terms, it states that it is not possible to know everything about a particular situation from within that situation. In other words, one must be in a position outside the arena of specified activity. As our viewpoint of a particular situation widens, there will always be an even deeper perspective which will give yet more information. It is not possible in the rational world to reach that point where the highest perspective has been reached.
In mathematics it applies to axioms in mathematical theories, but I feel it applies in more general situations.
An example would be, where someone is sitting inside a building with no windows, which is balanced over the edge of a cliff. All observations and calculations from within the building will be totally incapable of determining the fate of its occupant. But to an observer outside, the situation will be very obvious.
I have read several top selling books recently which try to explain God and reality in scientific terms. The authors are all eminent scientists who give incredibly in-depth theories, calculations and hypotheses. These books can be so intense and technical that after a few pages, one’s head is “completely in a spin’. These types of books possibly satisfy the intellectuals, giving them “mind fodder’ and mental exercise.
It strikes me that this is a situation very much in keeping with Godel’s theorem. Intellectuals can delve into the most intricate, complicated theorems and calculations, but they will never understand the “big picture’ from within the confines of their “rational perspective’. It is only when they step outside the world of the “physical illusion’ that the “web of Maya’ will begin to lift.
Sages and seers in ancient times who spoke of the spiritual side of nature, gained their insight by moving beyond the confines of the rational physical world. In a similar way to the principles of Godel’s theorem, the ancient mystics gained access by deep meditation to a perspective beyond the physical, in order to attain a more complete picture of the physical realm.
In other words, when we are within the illusion of physical reality it is not possible using its own internal methods and concepts to fully understand it. By accessing or looking from a higher level of awareness beyond the boundaries of the “physical illusion’, we escape the constraints imposed on us by the finite physical world. To a rational scientific person this may all sound like something out of a science fiction novel. But remember that I stated earlier in the book that unless we can relate physically to our ideas, they are not reality for us.
At this point I would like to introduce what in my opinion is a kind of “unified field theory’. This is what Einstein searched for in vain. The reason for Einstein’s failure, is that access to it is beyond mathematics, test tubes and intellectual activity. The intellect can merely confirm its operation.
This theory cannot be accessed with the rational mind, although the rational mind can observe and confirm its operation. The “Param Chaitanya’ or all pervading power which exists throughout the universe is the elusive “unified field’ for which Einstein searched in vain. It encompasses all of the physical cosmos, and also the realm of the spiritual or Virata in Eastern tradition. Its basic units of propagation (in simplistic terms) are what can be called “vibrations’. At last mankind is at the point of conscious interface between the physical and spiritual. This interface is entered without effort or thought, it is spontaneous and natural. It can be felt via the central nervous system as a physical sensation, it is an actualisation, not something imagined as a theory or concept.
The following quote from a leading magazine seems to indicate that even the international corporate world is looking towards the search for inner meaning:
“There’s more to us than the snivelling, snarling organism that craves power and approval. The clarity and contentment we seek lies deep inside us all.’
From Fortune magazine, August 22, 1994.
Article entitled, “Leaders learn to heed the voice within’, by Stratford Sherman.
Nagarjuna’s Seventy Verses on EmptinessNagarjuna (who lived during the second century C.E) is regarded as the founder of the Madhyamaka school of Mahayana Buddhism. His most important work was the Mulamadhyamaka-karika (‘Fundamental Verses on the Middle Way’). Other important works included the Yuktisastika (‘Sixty Verses on Reasoning’), and the Shunyatasaptati (‘Seventy Verses on Emptiness’).
Nagarjuna’s most important disciple, Aryadeva (second century C.E.), became a leader of the Madhyamaka school. Arydeva’s best-known work was the Catuhshatakastava (‘Four Hundred Verses’).
The teachings of the Madhyamaka School were based on the Prajna-paramita (‘Perfection of Wisdom’) sutras, ancient scriptures dating from the first centuries B.C. and C.E.
Madhyamaka means ‘Middle Way.’ A Madhyamika is a follower of the Middle Way.
Another important development in Mahayana Buddhism was the Yogachara School, founded by Vasubandu and by Asanga (in the fourth century C.E.). While the Yogachara School agreed with the Madhyamaka that all things are empty of self-existence, it differed in that it asserted that all things exist in consciousness only (thus, it is referred to as the Mind-Only or Consciousness-Only School).1
A fundamental teaching of Nagarjuna’s philosophy is the concept of emptiness (shunyata).
Nagarjuna’s Seventy Verses on Emptiness explain his teaching that phenomena are empty of inherent existence. Nagarjuna says that phenomena are not inherently existent, because they are dependent-arising. Dependent-arising refers to the fact that phenomena arise dependently in relation to their causes and conditions of existence.
The arising of phenomena dependently in relation to their causes and conditions of existence means that phenomena are in cause-and-effect relationships. Phenomena are not inherently the cause of their own existence. The continuation or cessation of phenomena is also dependent upon causes and conditions of existence, and is not inherently existent.
The unity or plurality of phenomena is not inherently existent, but is dependent on causes and conditions of existence (verse 7). Moreover, phenomena are not inherently permanent or temporary (verse 9).
To say that phenomena are not inherently existent is not to say that phenomena are non-existent. The statement that phenomena are not inherently existent means that phenomena depend upon causes and conditions of existence. If phenomena did not depend on causality, they would not exist. Therefore, to say that phenomena exist inherently is actually to say that they do not exist (verse 16).
If phenomena were inherently existent, they would be independent of causes and conditions of existence. But any such phenomena would be non-existent, if they were independent of causes and conditions of existence.
According to Nagarjuna, the way that phenomena appear to us is different from the way that they actually exist. Although phenomena appear to exist inherently, they are actually empty of inherent existence.
If it is understood that phenomena are not inherently existent, it can be seen that suffering does not exist inherently. Recognition of this teaching can help us to attain nirvana, which is the cessation of suffering.
Since, phenomena do not inherently exist, consciousness of the phenomenal world is not inherently existent. Life and death do not inherently exist.
Time does not inherently exist, because the past, the present, and the future are dependent on each other (verse 29). Phenomena which are time-dependent, in their beginning, continuing, and ending in relation to each other, are thus not inherently existent.
Nagarjuna says that to know the non-inherent existence of phenomena is to understand the reality of their emptiness. To know the emptiness of phenomena is to overcome our ignorance about reality (verse 65).
To understand the emptiness of inherent existence is to know dependent-arising as the reality of all phenomena (verse 68).
Nagarjuna’s Seventy Verses are an analysis of the nature and mode of existence of the phenomenal world. The Seventy Verses do not address the question of whether there can be any inherently existent being which transcends the emptiness of the phenomenal world. Nagarjuna says, however, that non-inherent existence is the ultimate reality of phenomena.
It is important to emphasize that Nagarjuna’s philosophy is not a form of nihilism. Nagarjuna regards nihilism as a form of error. Nagarjuna views the concept of emptiness as a Middle Way between both sides of the argument about what does exist or does not exist.
In Nagarjuna’s philosophy, emptiness as the ultimate reality of phenomena transcends existence and non-existence. Emptiness transcends the duality of being and non-being, unity and plurality, subject and object, self and non-self.
For Nagarjuna, emptiness is not nothingness, or non-being. Emptiness is absence of inherent existence. Emptiness is also non-inherent existence. For Nagarjuna, emptiness is the true reality of the phenomenal world.
101. A contented mind is a continual feast. Greed and material desires must be curbed to achieve
lasting happiness and serenity. Be happy with what you have. Do you really need all of those material
possessions? One can develop contentment just as one develops patience, courage and
concentration – with daily practice and sincere desire.
102. Make a new friend or acquaintance every day. Keep an updated list of all contacts close at
hand. Rich relationships are the DNA of a rich, rewarding life.
103. Remember this ancient Indian proverb: “if you conquer your mind, you conquer the world.”
104. Place greater importance on staying happy than amassing material possessions. A zest for life
is developed and carefully nurtured through thoughtful activities and pursuits.
105. Contrary to popular opinion, stress is not a bad thing. It allows us to perform at peak levels and
can assist us through the flood of chemicals it releases within our bodies. What is harmful is too
much stress, or more particularly, a lack of relief from stress. The times of stress must be balanced
nicely with times of pure relaxation and leisure for us to be healthy and at our best. Many of the great
leaders of our time were exposed to crushing workloads and the burdens of high office. But they
prospered by developing strategies to balance the challenging times with fun and calming times.
President Kennedy would have regular naps in his White House office. Winston Churchill had the
same practice and slept for one hour every afternoon to stay alert, focused and calm. Not only is it
essential to be physically relaxed to maintain optimal health but one must couple this trait with mental
serenity. Too often people think that vigorous exercise, good nutrition and pleasant leisure activities
will be the panacea for all ills. These pursuits must be combined with positive thinking and peace of
mind for true happiness and longevity.
106. Get into the habit of taking mental vacations throughout the day. Visit Bermuda for five minutes
in the morning. Visualize a swim in the Mediterranean in the afternoon and skiing down the slopes of
the Alps just before you head for home at the end of your busy and productive day. Try this for two
months and schedule these rest periods into your agenda just as you would your essential meetings
or tasks. The rewards will be significant.
107. A change is as good as a rest. Whether this change is as major as a change of
employment or as minor as a leisure pursuit which occupies your entire attention for an hour three
times a week, these changes in routine, and mindset are entirely beneficial. In selecting the activity,
try to find something totally engaging which requires deep concentration so that your mind is free
from the mundane but seemingly important aspects of your day. Many executives are becoming
involved in the martial arts for just this reason. If your mind wanders for even a split second, a harsh
lesson is soon learned. Pain is a great motivator and always will be.
108. Study these 10 fundamentals of happiness:
i. Pursue a productive, exciting and active life
ii. Engage in meaningful activities every minute of every day
iii. Develop an organized, planned lifestyle with little chaos
iv. Set realistic goals yet keep your mark high
v. Think positively – you cannot afford the luxury of a negative thought
vi. Avoid needless worry over trifling matters
vii. Devote time to fun
viii. Develop a warm, outgoing personality with a sincere love of people
ix. Get in the habit of giving more than receiving
x. Learn to live in the present. The past is water under the bridge of life.
109. Strive to be humble and live a simple life.
110. Read “A History of Knowledge” by Charles Van Doren which chronicles the history of the world’s
ideas. In this one book is an absolute wealth of knowledge. Get it, read it and enjoy it.
111. Read “The Art of the Leader” by William A. Cohen. It is both inspirational and practical.
112. Develop that elusive quality known as charisma. The following are ten qualities of a charismatic
• Be committed to what you are doing
• Look like a winner and act like one
• Have big dreams, a vision and reach for the sky
• Steadily advance in the direction of your goals
• Prepare and work hard at every task you do
• Build a mystique around yourself
• Be interested in others and show kindness
• Have a strong sense of humour
• Be known for the strength of your character
• Have grace under pressure. (John F. Kennedy said that “the elusive half-step between middle
management and true leadership is grace under pressure.”)
113. In work, love and life, play hard and play fair.
114. Do not talk when you are listening. Interrupting is one of the most common discourtesies. Listen
aggressively with the full scope of your attention. You will be amazed at what you learn and how your
counsel will soon be sought by many.
115. “Anybody can become angry – that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right
degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within
everybody’s power and is not easy.” – Aristotle
116. Knowledge is power. People who have achieved great success are not necessarily more skillful
or intelligent than others. What separates them is their burning desire and thirst for knowledge. The
more one knows, the more one achieves. Great leaders have techniques to allow them to arrive at
the top of the mountain. Read the biographies of the world’s leaders and learn from their habits,
inspirations and philosophies. Cultivate the important practice of active role modelling.
117. All the answers to any questions are in print. How to improve as a public speaker, how to
improve your relations with others, how to become fitter or develop a better memory – all aspects of
personal development are dealt with in books. Therefore, in order to achieve your maximum
potential, you must read daily. But, in this age of information, you must be ruthless in what you
consume. Focus on your goals and read only those materials that will be an asset to you. Do not
attempt to read everything for you are busy and have other tasks at hand. Choose what is important
and filter out what is of no value. Begin with a solid newspaper every morning for an excellent
summary of the key events of the day. Also ensure that your readings are broadly based. For
example, perhaps you may wish to read history, business, Eastern philosophy, health books etc.
Then go to the library and develop the habit of making regular visits. Read the classics from
Hemingway to Bram Stoker. Read history, with all its lessons on life and read biology for a new
perspective. Look under the heading of “success” at the library and you will be amazed at the
literature you will find: inspirational stories of people who developed greatness in the face of
adversity, strategies for improving yourself physically, mentally and spiritually and texts to tap the
unlimited power for success that certainly exists within us. Drink deeply from such books. Surround
yourself with them and read them constantly whether on the bus each day or before you go to bed.
Let them inspire and motivate you.
118. Get into the habit of breakfast meetings. An early meal to touch base with a friend or business
associate is a most pleasant way to start the day and allows you to maintain your contacts in the face
of a busy schedule.
119. If you live in a flat, always ensure that it is very bright and has a swimming pool. A pool is
especially important because it will allow you to exercise no matter how busy your schedule. There is
nothing like a refreshing swim after a long, productive day. You will feel excellent and sleep like a
120. “Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have
virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we
repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
121. “Today is yesterday’s pupil.” – Benjamin Franklin
122. If you have a choice of taking two paths, always take the more daring of the two.
Calculated risk taking often produces extraordinary results.
123. Every day, get away from the noise, the crowds and the rush and spend a few hours alone in
peaceful introspection, deep reading or simple relaxation.
124. That which any person who has walked this Earth has achieved you can achieve with the right
mental attitude, perseverance and industry. Limiting thoughts and weak mental images must be
banished. One’s focus must be on the attainment of goals that are truly important.
125. Get into the habit of memorizing beautiful poetry. Not only will it be a great source of
entertainment but it will quickly lift your intellectual functions to a higher level by improving your
memory, concentration and mental agility.
126. Keep your words soft and arguments hard.
127. Break the worry habit by putting things in perspective and laughing over small setbacks. Repeat
to yourself that “this will soon pass”. Then take a sheet of paper, write out the worry on your mind.
Allot a certain period of time to think on it, isolate the precise problem and formulate a powerful line of
attack. By this practical technique, your negative, energy sapping habit will soon be a faint memory of
128. Be known as that person who goes the extra mile. The person who works longer than others.
The one who takes on the extra assignments and follows them through with great success. Be the
person who always has concerns about others and who makes family members feel truly special. Be
a standout, the one with a balance in both personal and professional excellence. Be a star that
shines brightly for all others to admire.
129. Become a committed and sincere networker. Cultivate new friendships. You will truly be
surprised where people end up over the years and how small, kind gestures will help you later on in
life. Treat everyone who crosses your path as if they are the most important person in your world.
You will certainly meet with great success.
130. When you look for something you will find it. If you constantly expect exceptional success, you
will surely have it. Peak performers attract success. You must keep the goals you desire to achieve at
the forefront of your mind throughout the day. Repeat your ambitions at least five times a day and
visualize yourself achieving them. If your goal is to be rich, picture the house you will be living in, the
car you will be driving, what it will feel like to be rich and the pleasure of attaining your goals in life.
Repeat your ambition over and over until you have complete certainty that you will attain your desires
and eventually you will.
131. Develop a sense of wonder about the world. Be an explorer. Find pleasure in the things that
others take for granted. Stop and actually listen to that wonderful street musician playing the trumpet.
Read that classic book your father loved so much. Plan to get away from the city next week and visit
a secluded, powerfully natural place for a few days. Take a mini-retreat and care for your mind, body
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and spirit. It will profoundly improve the quality of your life.
132. Send cards on birthdays and little notes from time to time showing that you care and were
thinking about your relations. We are all busy but if you spend just five minutes a week to send a card
to a friend or family member, by the year end you will have sent out 52 cards. This is a small
investment for the dividends that are guaranteed to follow.
133. Remember and use people’s names when you talk to them. A person’s name is a uniquely
sweet sound to them.
134. Go outdoors and look up into the blue sky for half an hour. Note the supremely strong feeling
that you get when you are connected to Nature. Get away from your rigid schedule today and spend
the afternoon in a beautiful setting. Walk in the woods and sit by a cool stream. Go fishing or rent a
canoe. Getting away from your routine will provide a refreshing release and make you feel wonderful
when you eventually return.
135. Once every few weeks, leave your watch at home. In this society we often become bound to the
clock and soon it governs our every action like a rigid taskmaster. Go through the day doing precisely
what you wish to do and for however long you wish to do it. Spend time with that special person
without having to run off to your next appointment. Savour the moments and focus on what is truly
important rather than those mundane things that somehow take on a greater importance than they
really deserve. Lose the clock and gain some quality time.
136. Laugh at work and be known as a positive achiever.
137. An idea gives rise to a mental image. A mental image will then generate a mental habit out of
which a mental trait ultimately blossoms. Master your thoughts and you master your mind; master
your mind and you master your life; master your life and you master your destiny.
138. Recognize the tremendous power of opposition thinking. This simple technique simply involves
the substitution of a positive thought each and every time a negative or limiting thought enters your
mind and begins to detract from your focus. For example, on a Sunday evening, you may think “I
wish I did not have to return to work tomorrow after such a pleasant and relaxing weekend.”
Immediately replace this defeating thought pattern before it begins to take hold by thinking the
opposite. For example you might think “I cannot wait to return to the office given the exciting projects
on the go and the wonderful sense of accomplishment I receive after a productive, challenging week.”
Then think how fortunate you are to have a job and one that you can advance in through your own
efforts and productivity. Make a list of all of the positive attributes of your position and repeat them
over and over. Soon the negative pattern will be broken and you will look toward the exciting week
ahead with that most fabulous of qualities: enthusiasm.
139. Get deep into the habit of personal introspection. Ben Franklin called this one of the most
important strategies for personal effectiveness. Spend ten minutes every night before you go to bed
in self-examination. Think about the good things you did during the day and the bad actions you may
have taken which you must change in order to excel and grow. Successful people are simply more
thoughtful than others. Daily reflection will soon allow for the eradication of your negative qualities
(ranging from procrastination to gossiping to insulting others) and will sharpen the mind. After steady
practice, a time will eventually arrive when the mistakes you make are few indeed and your personal
power will move to the highest level.
140. The most efficient and effective alarm clock ever developed lies within our own minds. If you do
not believe this, try the following: 1. Sit in an easy chair approximately ten minutes before you go to
bed. 2. Shut your eyes and gently rest your hands on your knees. 3. Breathe deeply for a few
minutes (inhale to the count of five, hold to the count of ten and exhale fully). 4. Repeat the following
command to yourself at least twenty times: “I will awake at (the desired time) feeling fresh, alert and
enthusiastic.” This command must be said with feeling and emotion. Then take a few seconds to
visualize yourself waking up at the desired time (the more detailed the mental picture the better) and
imagine how great you will feel. You will soon wake up at the desired moment after little or no
141. Some men see things as they are and say “why?” I dream of things that never were and say
“why not?” George Bernard Shaw
142. Use these strategies to improve the quality of your mind-calming meditation: 1. Practice
meditation at the same time each day and in the same place so that your mind becomes accustomed
to entering the desired serene state as soon as you enter the peaceful place. 2. The early morning is
undoubtedly the most powerful time to meditate. Indian yogis believe that the pre-dawn time has
almost magical qualities which aid in achieving the super-peaceful state so many meditators attempt
to attain. 3. Before you start, command your mind to be quiet by using affirmations such as “I will be
focused and very calm now.” 4. If thoughts do enter, do not force them out but simply let them pass
like clouds making way for the beautiful blue sky. Picture that your mind is like a still lake without
even a ripple. 5. Sit for ten minutes at first and then increase the time every few sittings. After a
month or two, you will not be interrupted by any pressing thoughts and will surely feel a sense of
peace that you have never felt before.
143. Forge and foster great friendships as such relationships are essential for maintaining a healthy
and successful life. Find a few minutes every day to jot down some warm wishes to an old friend or to
place a telephone call to someone you have not had a chance to speak to for a while. Show
compassion and sincere consideration for all your friends and watch the results which follow. Develop
long lasting friendships by being a good friend. Also, make it a priority to seek out new friends no
matter how many you may be fortunate enough to have. This is one of life’s greatest joys which many
of us miss.
144. Purchase a cassette or CD of Miles Davis’s Kind Of Blue. It is a uniquely soothing compilation
that will refresh and soothe you after a challenging and productive day. Music such as this is good for
145. Drown your appetite by drinking more water – ten glasses a day is ideal. It revitalizes the system
and purifies the body. Also, get into the habit of eating soups and more complex carbohydrates such
as rice, potatoes and pasta which feed your hunger with far less calories than other less healthy
foods. You truly are what you eat and must ensure that your diet is designed to maximize your
energy and mental clarity.
146. Develop the essential habit of punctuality for it is most important for high success. Punctuality
reflects discipline and a proper regard for others. Without it, even the most sophisticated person
appears slightly offensive. Do not be early and certainly never be late. Budget your time and, should
you arrive early, take a walk or simply relax for a few moments to ensure that you arrive on time as
requested. You will be appreciated and welcomed always if you cultivate this important quality that
appears so rarely these days.
147. The telephone is there for your convenience, not for the convenience of others who are
attempting to contact you. If you are busy with a task, do not answer the phone or have someone
answer the call so that you may return it at a more suitable time. Do not let such interruptions waste
your time. Most phone calls are not important and last far too long anyway. Over the course of the
average American’s lifetime, she will spend two years unsuccessfully returning phone calls. There are
so many important and fun things to do in life. The challenge is to respect precious time so that we
can achieve a fuller, more satisfying life.
148. Start your day off well. Before you get out of bed each morning, say a prayer or repeat your
personal affirmation giving thanks for the day and all the positive things you will see and achieve.
Make a conscious decision to make this the best day of your life and meet with pleasure, success
and fun. If you believe it, it will most certainly happen. A timeless secret for lifelong success is to live
each day as if it were your last.
149. Confide in your partner. This will strengthen the relationship and allow you both to grow at the
same pace. It is also a wonderful tonic to share important or otherwise troubling things with the
person you are closest to.
150. Push yourself just a little harder and a little farther each day. Winners on the playing field of life
push the envelope of their potential daily. Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.
Winners do the things that less developed people don’t like doing even though they also might not
enjoy doing them. This is what strength of character and courage is all about. Tackle your
weaknesses. Do the thing that you have consistently put off. Write that thank you note or letter that
you have neglected for so long. Exercise your discipline muscles and they will rise to the occasion by
filling your day with more satisfaction, more effectiveness and far more energy.
151. All individuals who have attained the highest of levels generally have cultivated the essential
mental habit of optimism. Without optimism, life loses its lustre and hardships appear at every step of
the way. This is an essential life habit.
152. Today, write down the seven best qualities of individuals who you admire and post this list by
your bed. Then, each morning as you rise, focus on a new quality which you will strive to implement
during the day. After one week, you will notice small differences in yourself. In one month, these traits
will become firmly embedded. After two months, all those important qualities will be yours.
153. You have as many reputations as you do acquaintances as each person you know thinks
differently of you. What should truly concern you is your character. You have full control of this and
this is what you must develop, refine and cultivate. Once your character is strong and vigorous, then
all else that is positive will follow.
154. Consider yourself as an orange. Only what is really inside can come out. If you fill your mind
with thoughts of serenity, positivity, strength, courage and compassion, when someone squeezes
you, this is the only juice that can flow.
155. Our lives have been described as a parenthesis in eternity. We are but a small blip on the stage
of the Universe. As we can take nothing with us when we leave, then the real meaning of our
existence must be to give and serve others. Keep this in mind. When you wake up early in the
morning, repeat the mantra: “I will serve others today, I will care for others today and I will be kind
today.” This kind of living will bring you huge returns if you stay on the purpose of aiding others rather
than on the outcome of personal gain.
156. Be known as an innovator at your place of work. Sit down over the next week and write out ten
suggestions for your supervisor as to how to improve the work being done and the quality of the
workplace itself. Be known as an idea person willing to discover challenges and tackle them with zest
157. Learn to laugh at yourself.
158. Keep open the windows of your mind.
159. Try to go through one full day without saying “I”. Focus on others. Listen to others and you will
learn wonderful new things as well as gain friendships.
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160. Spend one hour a day in full silence except in answer to direct questions. Even then, answer
directly and without extending the conversation unduly. We, so very often, talk around subjects and
repeat ourselves. This ancient Eastern exercise will not only build your will-power but develop clarity
and precision of language which is essential for effective communication.
161. Each day, do two things that you do not like doing. This may be the preparation of a report you
have been putting off or shining your shoes. It does not matter how small the task, just do it! Soon
these chores will not seem so bad, your personal power will increase and your productivity will soar.
Try it because this is an age-old technique for building strength of character.
162. True happiness comes from only one thing: achievement of goals, whether they are personal,
professional or otherwise. You are happiest when you feel you are growing. When you feel that you
are contributing and advancing in the direction of your dreams, you will notice that you have
boundless energy and vitality. Time spent on activities which offer little reward aside from a fleeting
feeling of relaxation (television watching is the best example), is time lost forever. Relaxation is
essential but chose the most effective means of renewal and spend your time in productive pursuits
that will slowly move you along the path of accomplishment. Happiness comes from doing – not
163. Napoleon III of France had a special ability to remember the names of all those he met. His
secret was to say “so sorry, I missed your name” after being introduced to a new person. This would
cause the name to be repeated and reinforced within his memory. If the name was difficult, he would
ask for the proper spelling.
164. The sages of China have held a basic life philosophy for thousands of years: develop an
indomitable spirit along with courtesy and integrity. The repetition of these three traits will make you
an exceptionally powerful individual respected by all. Exert your effort and personal influence to attain
165. A valuable technique for defeating negative and self-limiting thoughts that can hamper you from
attaining peak performance is the mental interrupt device. When a negative thought enters your
consciousness, first you must become aware of it and have a strong desire to remove it for good. To
do this, interrupt the negative train of thought by doing something to break and banish the self-limiting
pattern. When the bad thought enters, you may pinch yourself and say, “I am strong and weak
thoughts are gone”, or you may shout out loud or do anything that will divert your attention and
remove the negative focus. By practising this technique, you will see a marked decrease in the
negative thoughts that most people have, paving the way to the mindset of a true winner.
166. Taking time from your busy work and family schedule to focus on personal growth activities is
essential and is never to be considered a waste. Taking one hour from your hectic morning to watch
kids playing in a nearby park or to take a brisk walk might seem like a poor use of time to some. But
by making more time for life’s simple pleasures and bringing more balance into your day, you will
make the remaining hours far more productive and effective. You cannot do good unless you feel
good. When you are serene, relaxed and enthusiastic you are also more productive, creative and
dynamic. This is something that has been proved time and time again and yet we consistently get
caught up in the apparent immediacy of our routine and fail to see the forest for the trees.
167. Read more, learn more, laugh more and love more.
168. Pick five relationships that you desire to improve over the next six months. Write out the names
of these people and under each name detail why you want to improve the relationship, how you plan
to do so and in what time frame. This is simply another facet of goal setting – the practice which will
always yield excellent results in any of life’s fields. Be committed to being a better parent, friend and
citizen. Be creative in the steps you take to show your appreciation and respect for your loved ones.
Sending notes is fine but consider unique and thoughtful measures ranging from a romantic picnic in
the country with your partner to an early morning fishing trip with an old friend.
169. Remember the power of prayer.
170. An excellent investment in your personal growth is the six tape series of Reverend Norman
Vincent Peale entitled “The Power of Positive Thinking”. Get it and listen to it over and over. It is
packed full of strategies and techniques that, without fail, will ensure that you live a long, happy,
productive and prosperous life.
171. Consider purchasing a pocket organizer which may prove to be an excellent tool for scheduling,
recording your commitments and keeping the responsibilities of your life in fine order. One can be
purchased at a reasonable price.
172. Browse second-hand bookstores every few months searching for lost treasures of
character-building books. You will find gems on public speaking, improving your habits, time
management, personal health and other important subjects for low prices. Some of these older texts
are the very best and come from an age where every young person was under an obligation to
develop discipline and good life habits regularly.
173. Read The Magic of Believing by Claude M. Bristol. It will allow you to release the powerful forces
which most certainly exist in your mind but may presently be untapped.
174. Be known as someone with a cool head, warm heart and great character. Your presence on this
earth will long be remembered.
175. It has been said that doing something for others is the highest form of religion. Every week, out
of the 168 hours available, spend a few in service to others. Many say that such selfless service soon
becomes a key focus within their lives. Give your time at a seniors home or to needy children. Teach
someone how to read or offer to give a public lecture on the subject of your expertise. Simply take
action and do something to leave a legacy.
176. Fill your home with bright, fresh flowers. This is one of the best investments you can make. Let
the sounds of great music, loud laughter and good fun fill the oasis of your home.
177. Get to know and enjoy your neighbors. They make life more pleasant and can provide helpful
resources when you least expect it.
178. Recognize the power of mantras and the repetition of positive, powerful words. Indian yogis
have employed this technique for over 4000 years to live tranquil, productive and focused lives.
Create your own personal mantra which you can repeat daily to enhance your character and
strengthen your spirit.
179. When the breath is still and strong, so is the mind.
180. Use the following visualization from time to time. Sit in a quiet place and picture that you will be
on the earth for only another day. Who would you call, what would you say and what would you do?
These questions will give you some important insights into what outstanding actions you must
endeavor to complete.
181. Study the following evidence of high character:
• Precision & clarity of thought and speech
• Refined and gentle manners
• The power and habit of introspection
• The power of personal growth
• The power to achieve your goals & dreams
182. “Youth is not a time of life; it is a state of mind. People grow old only by deserting their ideals
and by outgrowing the consciousness of youth. Years wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm
wrinkles the soul… You are as old as your doubt, your fear, your despair. The way to keep young is to
keep your faith young. Keep your self-confidence young. Keep your hope young.” – Dr. L.F. Phelan
183. Explore the healing powers of Chinese herbal medicine and similar Eastern strategies for
maintaining a state of perfect health (consult an expert at all times and take a formal course on the
subject to gain powerful insights into this most useful area of healing).
184. Be certain to organize your time around the true priorities of your life. As Stephen Covey has
noted: “it is easy to say no when there is a deeper yes burning within.”
185. Slow down your pace of life. In this complex age, we are running our lives at a frantic pace.
Focus on what is truly important and start undertaking activities that will slow you down and rekindle
the natural, calm within us. Sit in the grass and watch the blue sky for half an hour – at first, it is not as
easy as one would think and the urge is to get up after only a few minutes of such useful relaxation.
Once you are used to a healthier pace of living, with regular periods dedicated to the simple
pleasures of life, every other activity will become more efficient and enjoyable.
186. Try eating only fruit and milk for a full day. Fasting is a powerful success strategy of the East
that millions use regularly to maintain peak health and mental clarity. By trying this simple practice
every few weeks you will notice a surge in your energy level and a lightness in your walk. Big meals
require a significant amount of energy that could be better directed toward more productive pursuits.
187. Value your spouse’s laugh and keep your partner’s picture close by your work desk for
inspiration and pleasant thoughts throughout the day.
188. If you are married, have your partner’s initials and your own engraved on the inside of your
wedding bands along with the date of your marriage. This is useful not only in case the rings are lost
but to provide you both with personalized keepsakes that may be passed down to successive
189. The mind is like a garden – as you sow, so shall you reap. When you cultivate it and nurture it, it
will blossom beyond your wildest expectation. But if you let the weeds take over, you will never reach
your potential. What you put in is what you get out. So avoid violent movies, trashy novels and all
other negative influences. Peak performers are meticulous about the thoughts they allow into the
gardens of their minds. You truly cannot afford the luxury of a single negative thought.
190. Do a hundred sit ups a day and do not break this habit. Strong abdominal muscles are very
helpful to ensuring that you enjoy peak health and injury free days. They also maintain your
appearance and confidence level.
191. Be the most honest person that you know. Be trustworthy – worthy of the trust of others.
192. Curb your worldly desires and you will strengthen your will. He who is deeply bound to material
things runs into difficulty and unhappiness when they are taken away. Happy people enjoy worldly
objects but do not become bound or wedded to them. Live a simple, uncluttered and productive
existence. To simplify your life today, consider selling your television, stopping the junk mail,
spending less, learning yoga, selling your car, practising meditation every morning and unplugging
your ringing phone once in a while.
193. If you have not laughed today, you have not lived today. Laugh hard and loud. As William James
said: “we don’t laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh.”
194. Read The Charisma Factor – How to Develop Your Natural Leadership Ability by Robert J.
Richardson and S. Katharine Thayer. It is a superb book for any aspiring leader, or a current one,
who seeks to advance to the next level.
195. Travel often. The perspective offered by visiting new lands is important and allows one to
appreciate the existence that we generally take for granted.
196. Each month set a physical fitness goal for yourself. Start to swim in July or learn to ski in
January. The key is to arrive at a goal for the month, write it down, consider how to execute it and
then, as the NIKE ad says: “Just Do It!”.
197. Things are always created twice. There is always the mental creation which precedes the
physical creation. Just as plans for a house must first be set down on paper before the house is
started, so too should your day be planned within your mind early in the morning before the day
begins. Visualize the wonders you desire this life to bring and they will materialize as your
subconscious mind starts to focus on the attainment of goals. This is a true law of Nature.
198. Walk to work and notice the wonderful beauty in Nature.
199. Sleep less, spend less, do more, live longer and be greater.
200. Read this book over and over and share it with others!
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यो तथ्य हुँदाहुँदै पनि हामी मानवजातिको सफलताको मूल्यांकन गर्ने मनोवैज्ञानिक दृष्टिकोण भने अझै परिवर्तन हुन सकेको छैन । अझै पनि हामीमध्ये प्रायः यही सोच्छौं कि धन-सम्पत्ति नै हाम्रो सफलताको प्रतीक हो । धनी र गरिबको सोच्ने तरिकामा विद्यमान केही भिन्नताका केही उदाहरण हेरौंः
गरिब व्यक्तिले गर्ने कुराः
प्रायःजसो आफ्ना समस्या र आफूमाथि भएका अन्यायको कुरा ।
भर्खर घटेका नकारात्मक समाचारका कुरा ।
आफ्नो दुर्भाग्यका लागि धेरै जनामाथि आरोप लगाउनु ।
परिवारका सदस्यको अल्छीपन तथा धेरै दुःख दिने सन्तान भएको गुनासो ।
कसैलाई कुनै जमानामा गरेको गुणको कुरा घरि-घरि दोहोर्याइरहनु ।
लगानी गर्ने अवसर पाए भविष्य र उपलब्धि नसोची कुनै ठूलो जस्तो देखिने कुरामा लगानी गर्नु ।
धनी व्यक्तिले गर्ने कुराः
आफूले सिकेका-भोगेका नयाँ सीप र प्रविधिका बारेमा कुरा गर्छ ।
लगानीका विकल्प र उपायका बारेमा कुरा गर्छ ।
आफूलाई प्रेरणा दिने र अघि बढाउने व्यक्तिका बारेमा धेरै कुरा गर्छ ।
आफूले भोगेका सकारात्मक अनुभवका बारेमा कुरा गर्छ ।
आफूलाई हौसला दिने वस्तुका बारेमा कुरा गर्छ ।
आफ्ना दीर्घकालीन लक्ष्य र उद्देश्यका बारेमा कुरा गर्छ ।
गरिब व्यक्तिहरू यी कुरामा विश्वास गर्छन्ः
धेरै पैसा भए जो-कोही पनि सुखी र सफल हुन्छन् ।
धनी र गरिबमा सन्तुलन राख्न धनी व्यक्तिहरूले गरिबलाई आर्थिक सहयोग गर्नुपर्छ ।
सपना पूरा गर्न जति मरिमेटेर लागे पनि भाग्यले साथ नदिएसम्म सफलता पाइँदैन ।
अल्पकालीन समाधान नै अहिलेको आवश्यकता हो ।
धनी व्यक्तिहरू यी कुरामा विश्वास गर्छन्ः
बलियो पारिवारिक सम्बन्धले नै मानिसलाई खुसी र सुखी बनाउँछ ।
पैसा लक्ष्यसम्म पुग्ने एउटा माध्यम मात्र हो ।
आत्मोन्नति, लगनशीलता र मेहनतको फल हो पैसा ।
नयाँ-नयाँ प्रविधि र स्रोतको विकास भैरहेको अवस्थामा आफूले अझै धेरै सिक्न र भोग्न बाँकी छ ।
अल्पकालीन समाधानले कालान्तरमा राम्रो फल दिँदैन ।
गरिब व्यक्तिहरूको स्वभावः
आफ्नो पैसा लापर्वाह ढंगले कुनै यस्तो कुरामा खर्च गर्छन् जसले उनीहरूलाई तत्कालका लागि सन्तुष्टि दिन्छ र आफूलाई ठूलो मान्ने अवसर पनि, जस्तै, धूमपान-मद्यपानका वस्तुमा, कुनै मनोरञ्जनका साधनमा, अनावश्यक विलासिताका वस्तुमा ।
आफ्नो स्वास्थ्यमा ध्यान दिँदैनन्, जस्तो भेट्यो त्यस्तै खान्छन्, शारीरिक अभ्यास गर्दैनन् अनि आफ्नो बानी परिवर्तन गर्न पहल गर्दैनन् ।
जीवनमा घटेका हरेक घटनालाई नकरात्मक रूपमा हेर्छन् ।
आफ्नो बाटोमा आएका हरेक बाधा अड्चनलाई आफ्नो नियन्त्रणबाहिरको वस्तु मान्छन् ।
जिन्दगीको असफलतालाई ग्रहदशाको दोष अनि आफ्नो दुर्भाग्य मान्छन् ।
आलोचित भएको स्थिति र आकस्मिक परिस्थितिमा आक्रोशित ढंगमा प्रस्तुत हुन्छन् ।
धनी व्यक्तिहरूको स्वभावः
आफ्नो पैसा कुनै यस्तो कुरामा लगानी गर्छन्, जुन कालान्तरमा फाइदाजनक होस् र उपयुक्त ढंगले प्रयोग गर्न पाइयोस् ।
आपत्कालीन स्थितिमा प्रयोग गर्न केही रकम पहिले नै आफ्नो खातामा राख्छन् ।
आफ्नो स्वास्थ्यको ख्याल गर्छन् ।
सन्तुलित खाना खान्छन्, नियमित व्यायाम गर्छन्, नियमित स्वास्थ्य जाँच गराउँछन् ।
फुर्सदमा परिवारसँग रमाउँछन्, पुस्तक पढ्छन् ।
असफलतालाई अघि बढ्न पाएको नयाँ पाठका रूपमा लिन्छन् । आलोचनालाई सुझावका रूपमा लिन्छन् ।
सरसर्ती हेर्दा एकदम स्वाभाविक कुरा हो- धनी व्यक्तिसँग पहिले नै प्रशस्त पैसा हुन्छ, जसका कारण उनीहरू राम्रो खाना, उपयुक्त लगानी, दीर्घकालीन बचतको उपभोग सजिलै गर्न सक्छन् । अर्कातिर गरिब व्यक्तिसँग कुनै बचत अनि जगेडा पैसा नभएका कारण नै सस्तो खाना, सस्तो लगानी, फुर्सदमा बाहिर घुम्ने खर्च गर्न सक्ने क्षमता नहुनुजस्ता कारण गरिब असफल व्यक्ति हो भन्ने अन्धो दृष्टिकोणको उपज हुन सक्छ । सकारात्मक सोच, उन्नतिमूलक मनस्थिति एवं दीर्घकालीन योजनाको परिणाम पैसा हो कि ? यी कुरा पैसाका परिणाम हुन् भन्ने कुराचाहिँ बुझ्न अलि कठिन नै छ ।
It was the busiest department in the clinic, with about three dozen people filling the waiting room, most of them staring blankly into their Blackberries and iPhones. A middle-aged man with unkempt hair was pacing the room, muttering, “I need to milk my cows. I need to milk my cows.”
A twenty-something man was prone on the floor, his face buried in his hands, while a curly-haired woman comforted him.
“Don’t worry. It’ll be all right.”
“I just don’t understand it. I thought my update was LOL-worthy, but none of my friends even clicked the ‘like’
“How long has it been?”
“Almost five minutes. That’s like five months in the real world.”
The 76-year-old woman waited until her name was called, then followed the receptionist into the office of Alfred Zulu, Facebook Addiction Counselor.
“Please have a seat, Edna,” he said with a warm smile. “And tell me how it all started.”
“Well, it’s all my grandson’s fault. He sent me an invitation to join Facebook. I had never heard of Facebook before, but I thought it was something for me, because I usually have my face in a book.”
“How soon were you hooked?”
“Faster than you can say ‘create a profile.’ I found myself on Facebook at least eight times each day — and more times at night. Sometimes I’d wake up in the middle of the night to check it, just in case there was an update from one of my new friends in India. My husband didn’t like that. He said that friendship is a precious thing and should never be outsourced.”
“What do you like most about Facebook?”
“It makes me feel like I have a life. In the real world, I have only five or six friends, but on Facebook, I have 674.
I’m even friends with Juan Carlos Montoya.”
“I don’t know, but he’s got 4,000 friends, so he must be famous.”
“Facebook has helped you make some connections, I see.”
“Oh yes. I’ve even connected with some of the gals from high school — I still call them ‘gals.’ I hadn’t heard from some of them in ages, so it was exciting to look at their profiles and figure out who’s retired, who’s still working, and who’s had some work done. I love browsing their photos and reading their updates. I know where they’ve been on vacation, which movies they’ve watched, and whether they hang their toilet paper over or under. I’ve also been playing a game with some of them.”
“Let me guess. Farmville?”
“No, Mafia Wars. I’m a Hitman. No one messes with Edna.”
“Wouldn’t you rather meet some of your friends in person?”
“No, not really. It’s so much easier on Facebook. We don’t need to gussy ourselves up. We don’t need to take baths or wear perfume or use mouthwash. That’s the best thing about Facebook — you can’t smell anyone. Everyone is attractive, because everyone has picked a good profile pic. One of the gals is using a profile pic that was taken, I’m pretty certain, during the Eisenhower Administration. ”
“What pic are you using?”
“Well, I spent five hours searching for a profile pic, but couldn’t find one I really liked. So I decided to visit the local beauty salon.”
“To make yourself look prettier?”
“No, to take a pic of one of the young ladies there. That’s what I’m using.”
“Didn’t your friends notice that you look different?”
“Some of them did, but I just told them I’ve been doing lots of yoga.”
“When did you realize that your Facebooking might be a problem?”
“I realized it last Sunday night, when I was on Facebook and saw a message on my wall from my husband: ‘I moved out of the house five days ago. Just thought you should know.'”
“What did you do?”
“What else? I unfriended him of course!”
B- believe in yourself and succeed
C- consider things from every angle
D- don’t give up and don’t give in
E- enjoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come
F- friends and family are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches
G- give more than you planned to
H- have major league fun
I- ignore those who try to discourage you
J- just do it
K- keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier
L- love yourself first and most
M- make it happen
N- never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal
O- open your eyes and see things as they really are
P- practice makes perfect
Q- quitters never win and winners never quit
R- read study and learn about everything important in your life
S- stop procrastinating
T- take control of your own destiny
U- understand yourself in order to better understand others
V- visualize it and focus
W- want it more than anything
X- xcellerate your efforts
Y- you are unique in all God’s creations, nothing can replace you
Z- zero in on your target and go for it
- The way of living unconsciously is called by Buddha the dark way. And the way of living consciously, attentively, moment to moment, bringing your consciousness to each act, each small act, each detail, is the way of light.
- From birth to death you go on living, groping in darkness with no light — and you could have created the light. You cannot find it in the scriptures; nobody can hand it to you. It is not purchased or sold; it is nontransferable. But you can create it — you can put all your energies together. You can start living consciously from this very moment.
- If you are living in an unconscious way it makes no difference whether you live to seventy, eighty, ninety, a hundred; it does not matter. Living consciously even for a single moment is enough.
- A stupid person behaves mechanically: an intelligent person behaves consciously.
- Consciousness means living with a witness; unconsciousness means living without a witness. When you are walking on the road, you can walk consciously — that’s what Buddha says one should do — you are alert, deep down you are aware that you are walking; you are conscious of each movement. You are conscious of the birds singing in the trees, the early morning sun coming through the trees, the rays touching you, the warmth, the fresh air, the fragrance of newly opening flowers. A dog starts barking, a train passes by, you are breathing… you are watching everything. You are not excluding anything out of your alertness; you are taking everything in. The breath goes in, the breath goes out… you are watching everything that is happening.
- This life that you are living is sorrow, but this is not the only life. This is the life you have chosen. You can live another kind of life: Buddha lived it, I am living it, you can live it. You can live in a totally different way: you can live desirelessly, you can live meditatively, you can live with choiceless awareness. You can live so centered and rooted in your being that no sorrow can remain. No sadness, no misery, no death remains possible; they all disappear. As you become full of light, your life goes through a transformation. This is not the right kind of life that you are living.
- If you are living your life consciously, alertly, not repressing, not being against your body, you will have a tremendous silence. In your night there will be no disturbance — no dreams, just silent sleep. And in your day you will have a very cool feeling surrounding you — no thoughts, no traffic of thoughts which keeps your head hot the whole day.
- Unless you become alert and aware in life, unless you change the quality of your living, you will not die consciously. And only a conscious death can bring you to a conscious birth; and then a far more conscious life opens its doors.
- It is through decisiveness that the soul is born. If you exist accidentally, like driftwood, you live without a soul; your life is not much of a life. It is pseudo, it is lukewarm; it has no intensity; it has no flame; it has no light. You cannot experience the truth. Living accidentally, knowing the truth is impossible. One has to be so decisive, so committed, so consciously involved with life, so intensely adventurous, that all is at stake every moment. One has to be creative — not only unfolding, but creative.
- Sannyas is the beginning of the day, sannyas is the dawn. Let the night disappear, don’t cling to it. Become more alert so that the night cannot take possession of you again. Night means unawareness, day means awareness. Night means living a life mechanically, day means living a life with awareness, consciously.
- If you are centered, nothing can be destroyed. No fire can destroy your centering. Not even death is capable of distracting you. And this centering is possible only if you start living each moment meditatively, fully alert, aware. Don’t move like an automaton. Don’t react like a mechanism. Become conscious. Collect yourself more and more so that a crystallized consiousness continuously illuminates your inner being, a flame goes on burning there and it lights wherever you move. The path, the way, whatsoever you do, it lights it.
- Heaven is not somewhere else: it is a way of living. So is hell — a style of life. Hell is living unconsciously; heaven is living consciously. Hell is your own creation, so is heaven. If you go on living unconsciously, through your unconscious desires, instincts, motives — of which you are not the master but only the victim — then you create hell around yourself. But if you start living a conscious life, a life of bringing more and more light to the deep, dark corners of your being, if you start living full of light, your life is moment-to-moment ecstasy.
- Be skillful and live life consciously. Otherwise life becomes boring. You feel it. You know how it feels. Sooner or later everything feels boring; one is bored to death. One goes on living because one is not courageous enough to commit suicide. One goes on living just in the hope that sooner or later one will die — the death is coming.
Spirituality is not other-worldliness. Spirituality is a way of living in this world meditatively, totally, blissfully. It is not against this world; in fact it enhances this world, enriches this world, it makes this world more beautiful, more blissful. But religions up to now have done just the opposite. They have made this earth a hell. I hold the so-called religions absolutely, categorically responsible for the misery that exists in the world.
- I am teaching everybody to enjoy the moment, and don’t be bothered by tomorrow. Living in the moment intelligently, consciously, meditatively, will take care of the future. There is no need for me to give you directives, guidelines for what you have to do when I am gone. That’s what all the old religions have done.
- Before death comes you will become unconscious, so you will miss the experience of death. The people who are living consciously — and that is my basic teaching, live consciously every moment. Even while making love, remain conscious and a witness. It is a life… long growth if becoming alert. Then you can die consciously and you can experience death as the ultimate orgasm. It is far bigger than any sexual orgasm. In fact, the difference is not only of quantity, the difference is of quality. It is immeasurable. Living moment to moment, one learns how to die. beautifully, silently, joyously.
- It is not my belief ‘that man should live more meditatively’, it is my understanding that man can live only in meditation — otherwise there is no life. Meditation is life. Not to be in meditation is not to live. Then you only pretend that you are living; then your life is just a mask. It has no authenticity in it, it has no depth; it is just the surface, the facade.
- If you live consciously, if you try to bring consciousness to every act that you go through, you will be living in a silent, blissful state, in serenity, in joy, in love. Your life will have the flavour of a festival. That is the meaning of heaven: your life will have many flowers in it, much fragrance will be released through you. You will have an aura of delight. Your life will be a song of life-affirmation, it will be a sacred yes to all that existence is. You will be in communion with existence — in communion with stars, with the trees, with the rivers, with the mountains, with people, with animals. This whole life and this whole existence will have a totally different meaning for you. From every nook and corner, rivers of bliss will be flowing towards you. Heaven is just a name for that state of mind. Hell means you are living so unconsciously, so absurdly, in such contradiction, that you go on creating more and more misery for yourself.
- I teach you to be expressive and to accept all your nature with pride — it is your inheritance from nature. Living naturally without inhibition, things like rape will disappear. Living silently and meditatively, violence is not possible. Compassion will be just a natural phenomenon.
- If you know the art of living… and that’s what I call religion — real, authentic religion — the art of living. If you know the art of living… and it consists of small things, not of big, great commandments… very small things… just sipping your tea joyfully, meditatively, tasting each sip as if this is the last sip. Perhaps you may not be able again to hold the cup in your hands — there is no guarantee.
- In short: to live means to live in God — consciously, totally. And those who are not living that way, they are dead. They are WORSE than dead! because they THINK they live, and they are not alive. They are not yet even born. They are only seeds, potential but not actual. A Jesus has to happen to them, a Master has to happen to them, only then will they fall in the soil. A gardener is needed — only then will the seed die and be born as a tree. And then there will be great rejoicing, great flowering, and great fulfillment, great fruition.